I am currently reading a biography of Rita Hayworth. She was a beautiful movie star. It is interesting to note that her life was not without some challenges.
When I first became interested in her I heard her father had trained her to dance. He supposedly had a dance studio and she was his star pupil.
I was a bit envious. I wanted to dance so bad when I was a little girl, but my Dad was a farmer and we lived in a little town where dancing was considered a sin. So my dreams of becoming a ballerina were not fulfilled.
As I read the biography of Rita Hayworth, I realized she didn’t really want to dance and there is a good chance that her father molested her.
I would take my father over hers any day of the year. Having a father who respects sexual boundaries is far better than one who could teach me how to dance.
However, there is something else I noticed in her biography. Rita Hayworth wanted to be loved. She married several times and always wanted a peaceful home life where she could feel loved.
I have known several people who said all they ever wanted was to be loved.
You would think it would be easy to fulfill that desire wouldn’t you?
It isn’t. It is the most exasperating challenge to encounter.
There are two people in my life who have said this to me.
I have tried my hardest to love both of them but it was never enough. It was exhausting to continually put my goals and ideals aside to try and meet theirs.
Each time I thought I had pleased them, the bar would just be set higher for the next round.
I ended losing my zest for life and abandoning my passion of writing to try and prove my love for them. Even with that sacrifice the constant neediness of their weakness was not satisfied.
Rita Hayworth was so devoid of love she got involved with more than one man who was married at the time. I am in no way judging her, just stating the facts.
It seems as if sexual immorality is a character trait among people who want to be loved.
To want to be loved is not a bad thing in itself but to desire physical intimacy outside of marriage is.
I see it merely as having your priorities mixed up. We are to love the Lord our God with all of our heart, soul and mind first. Then love our neighbors as ourselves. (Matthew 22:36-40).
If you are willing to sin to show someone else that you love them, then they are not from God, no matter what they may proclaim.
To love God is to honor and obey his commandments. “In fact, this is love for God: to keep his commands. And his commands are not burdensome.” 1 John 5:3.
When you love God first and others second, priorities tend to fall in place like a gentle spring rain and you feel refreshed, instead of exhausted.