I have recently joined a dating site again. Not because I am desperate but because I have not found exactly what I want yet. It never hurts to keep searching if you are not married. So recently I had an experience that I wanted to share with you. It was when I met a con.
The con- I saw his picture and he was very handsome. He lived in Dallas according to his profile. Dallas is not too terribly far away from where I live and he said that distance was not a problem for him. So we started texting. I could tell by his sentence structure that he had not grown up in America so I was on guard right away. It is not that I am prejudice against foreigners. I would have no problem dating someone from a different country but the majority of cons come from Africa and I can spot them a mile off cause they don’t have a clue how to write correctly.
He took his profile down right away when he started texting me and told me to hide mine. We hadn’t even met yet. I thought that was a bit unusual but I hid mine for a few days then put it back up, then hid it again. It was a ping pong game for awhile with my profile.
He called me his wife within the first week. Really?!!! Yes, I had not met this guy and he was already deluded into thinking he could accomplish what greater men had failed at? Wow! That is some kind of arrogance, either that or stupidity. He asked if he could call his wife. I told him I thought we should meet first and that I really wasn’t his girlfriend until that event had happened.
I thought of him as more of a friend. Which is how I think of most of the guys I meet in social situations. He was interesting and I enjoyed texting him off and on. I would text him while I was working in the evening at my home and I found it to be quite fun. Until a couple of nights ago when he crossed the line. He asked me for a picture of my naked body. Seriously… I know it is hilarious right? Like I am going to send a man whom I have never met, a picture of my body sans clothing. Are you kidding me?
Pretty soon he had to fly off to the Philippines to settle some matters regarding some investment properties. My guard was going higher. Cons never stay within driving distance of you. They are always in a foreign country. That way you can’t find them.
When he asked me for a sexy picture I really got offended. This is when my God got involved, because of the respect and honor I hold God in, I was not going to do that. I know a lot of people on the internet have no morals but I do and sending sexy pictures without clothing is not something I am going to do… ever.
So I told him,”No, I was not going to do that because I was a Christian.” He asked me if that meant that I did not trust him with my body. Well, shoot, no, I didn’t trust him with my body, I hadn’t even met him yet. A bit presumptuous to be talking about trust. I have a testimony and my testimony dictates how I behave and showing my naked body to a stranger is without a doubt on the no-no list.
Then today the bomb dropped. Apparently he had gotten all of his information stolen in the hotel and many people had been killed. He needed me to send him some money so that he could get his passport and come back home. I had two problems with that story. First off I had been honest with him from the start when I suspected he was a con that I did not have any money. Second I am no one’s savior. If he is in a mess it is his responsibility to get out of it,, not mine. I am not his wife, his friend or his relative so I hold no ties to him.
I had a few choice words that I texted him back and once he knew there was no money coming, the replies stopped. I am so thankful that I have a God who has given me a Bible so that scoundrels such as this can not view the beauty that God has created in my body.
I hope that any single parent out there who is on the internet for dating purposes will read this and learn some of the characteristics of cons:
#1. Their grammar is like that of a 5 year old.
#2. For some unexpected reason they have to be in a different country. Africa is usually the country they choose and they commonly are in the oil and gas industry.
#3. Most of them have suffered the loss of a spouse and for that having happened; they don’t really mourn the spouse.
#4. Many of them have just one child that they want you to help parent.
#5. They have befallen some tragedy and it is your responsibility to help them finance their way out of it.
#6. They can never seem to meet you face to face. Nor do they provide an address or full legal name.
#7. Do not send anyone pictures of your naked body. You have no idea what they could be dong with that and if you are a Christian it could hurt your testimony. Believe me God is aware how beautiful your body is and He will send the right person into your life to honor it and you.
DON’T FALL FOR IT! There are many wonderful people out there to date. No need to waste money or time on the catfish.