DEBT

I have had a history of being a very good money manager. I used to pay off my credit balance every time I was billed. Then I had a period of time when I didn’t work and although I had some savings it quickly ran out. As a result of being unemployed I started to accumulate debt. I became angry and stressed because I had never been in debt before. It wasn’t out of control but I didn’t like it.

Soon God gave me favor and I was able to transfer all of my debt to 0% interest accounts but I still wasn’t happy because I don’t like being in debt. In Proverbs 22:7 it says. “The rich rules over the poor and the borrower is a slave to the lender.” I don’t like being a slave to anyone much less someone I don’t know that sends me those irritating bills on a monthly basis.

I started thinking about this recently because of a situation my daughter is in and I realized that I am more content with less things and no bills than I am with more things and increasing debt.

As I whittle away at my debt I have become careful not to let my eye for style and fashion get the best of me. I do intend to do some redecorating this year but I am going to make sure I comparison shop and bargain hunt before I buy anything. The new couches I so want may have to wait until next year as well as new flooring for my lower level of my house.

My goal is to get entirely out of credit card debt by the end of the year. I hope that God will bless me in that way. As I do this I know that my children will look to me again for help with their college tuition and expenses. I am the one that they always go to because I have been blessed with the awareness that debt is a slave master.

Over the past year I have made a choice. I would rather be a servant of God than a slave to debt. There is a difference and that difference is vast.

RESIGNING MY POSITION

I started a new job a few months ago. I started with this new company because one of my close friends was the Director of Nurses. I thought it would be a breeze. I mean having the boss as a good friend always helps right? Wrong, I have thought more about resigning my position with this company than with former companies.

It has been the most challenging job I have worked for several years. They have a QA nurse in the office who is a nightmare for all of the right reasons. She is excellent at QA and she does her critiques of our documentation without any venom. I really like her even when I am upset that she sent some documentation back to me for corrections. She knows documentation better than most nurses do.

A couple of weeks ago I was so exasperated by the demands of the company I really wanted to just throw in the towel. I have other friends in the industry and they have been talking about me going to work for their companies yet no phone calls were coming in requesting interviews.

I am not financially secure enough to be without a job so what am I to do? I prayed and I prayed about this wanting my will to be done. I wanted a different company to work for.

God didn’t answer this prayer. What He did do is help me appreciate where I am at.

I have realized that the high standards of this company are making me better at documentation and may be making me a better nurse overall. I have also learned to appreciate the character of my boss who corrects me and teaches me with kindness.

I know that I am employed to administer healthcare to my patients but I also know I am to minister to my patients. My boss is a very strong Christian and she does not chide me for talking about my Savior, Jesus Christ. I have testified to many of my patients and some of them have become good friends.

I have also been very vocal in some of our meetings. I am gifted by God to be able to discern problems in a company and also gifted with solutions to present. During our last corporate meeting I presented a solution to a problem for not only me, but other nurses, and the solution was accepted and implemented.

As I continue to work at this company I sense that God is buffering me and making me a better nurse and also a better Christian. As I walk with God I realize that I am resigning my will to Him and allowing His will to be done. That is fulfilling my greatest role in life.

A PRAYER REQUEST

I have a prayer request for my son who is in Florida. He is taking the MCAT for the second time today and I am requesting intercession for God’s will to be done in this matter. My will would be that my son would ace the test but it is wise for God’s will to be done, not mine. So I ask you to pray for God’s will to be done in this.

In the first try on the MCAT my son got into the top 20% of the nation as far as his score went but he prefers to be in the top 5%. That way he can choose which medical college he wants to go to.

As I ask this of you I want you to know that the Lord has given this child a gift of intelligence and a motivation and determination to cure cancer. So as you are praying for this test I ask also that you pray for God to guide him daily as he proceeds to develop his theory for curing cancer. He is looking into a patent right now for a hypothesis that he has been led to.

If you know someone who has been affected by cancer I am sure you will realize the importance of this.

I also ask that you pray for God’s protection over him. He has changed dramatically from a young man who went into medicine for the money to one who no longer cares about the profit margin but just wants to help as many people as he can.

In a business where people’s health is disregarded for profit he could be a shining light of God’s love if directed and protected by God.

AMNESTY INTERNATIONAL

I read the headline, “Amnesty International Votes to Recommend Decriminalizing Sex Work.” I read it again thinking that I had gotten something wrong. I hadn’t.

Then I became enraged.

To think that a human rights organization would embrace an insane stance such as this is beyond wrong. It is criminally insane. So I continued to read hoping beyond hope that they had some rational which would make sense.

This was their rational. ““Sex workers are one of the most marginalized groups in the world who in most instances face constant risk of discrimination, violence and abuse,” said Amnesty International Secretary General Salil Shetty in a statement. “Our global movement paved the way for adopting a policy for the protection of the human rights of sex workers which will help shape Amnesty International’s future work on this important issue.”

WHAT????

So okay let me get this right. We are going to make pimping and prostitution a legal option for society and that is going to elevate pimping and prostitution out of the ranks of abuse and demoralization? REALLY?!! ARE YOU KIDDING ME????

I can not wrap my sane mind around this.

First of all most women or girls who are prostituted are not criminals. It is the pimps and those who pay for sex that are the criminals. Some of these women have been sold into the sex trade because their families did not have money. Others enter the occupation because they have not had the opportunity to gain an education. I don’t think many of them do it because they want to. It is a matter of survival.

To decriminalize this is to give the pimps and the paying perverts the right to continue to treat these women as if they are just a dumping ground for their abuse and perversion. I do not know why the feminists are not all over this shit. Because as a God fearing single mother I want to go ballistic.


THE PERFECT MARRIAGE

There are so many marriages which fail in this day and age. Some which you think have every chance of being successful. As I have watched this happen I have prayed about it and asked God what He intends marriage to be. This is what I think it is all about.

Marriage should be about two people coming together who really don’t like being apart. Both people should want to be with each other. Not just one person but both people. You don’t have to think the same way, nor do you need to even vote the same way.

You just need to enjoy each other, preferably without alcohol. Alcohol can temper or inflame feelings which are not normally present so it is best to not indulge until you really know this person and then in moderation.

Once you realize that this person is it you should have sex right?

No. You should not have sex until the eve of your marriage. Sex was not created for orgasm. It was created as a symbolic expression of you becoming one with another person after you have invited God into your midst.

As I have dated I have realized that the majority of men I date have one goal in mind. It is to have sex. Since I don’t do that anymore there is rarely a second date. That is just fine with me.

I do have some dear friends who I date occasionally and they know my principle on marriage. They respect my principle but they still try to get me in bed. So I am careful as to what I wear and what I do with friends such as this.

It is interesting that one of my friends whom I have dated off and on for over a year is a part of a relationship group. He has told them my views on premarital sex and all of the women in this group have said I was wrong. This dear friend has stood up for me and proclaimed that I was right. He still tries to get me in bed though. lol Sometimes I have to realize that God made men with a wonderful sex drive and I have to remain strong and abide by the principles that He has provided in His word.

As I see the breakdown of the family I wonder if we returned to abstinence if it would make any difference in the divorce rate. I don’t know but I think it may because when you invite God into your relationship He has a way of ironing out the wrinkles of the relationship.

How to pray

I can’t say that I pray every morning but I can say that I try to. This morning I told God He had dibs on the day.

I knew what I had planned was not something I was looking forward to but it had to be done. I have had a molar in the upper part of my mouth that has been giving me problems for 7-8 years. Finally the crown popped off and I have needed to get the rest of the tooth dug out of my mouth. I have put this off trying to see if my dental insurance would kick in but it was becoming painful. Yesterday that side of my mouth hurt really bad so I was thankful I had set up the extraction for this morning.

I got up and got dressed and did a bit of picking up. The time was approaching for me to head out for my 9:15 am appointment. There was one problem with that plan of action and that was that I could not find my keys. Gads, this is not the first time my ADHD has hidden my keys and probably won’t be the last but I had taken a full day off of work for this dental procedure and I did not need to miss this appointment.

I looked in the pockets of my scrubs which I had worn to an HOA meeting last night. NO keys. I looked on the kitchen counters which I had just cleaned thoroughly and found NO keys. I looked in my couches and went up on my catwalk to look down into my living room. Still NO keys.

By this time 9:15 am had come and gone and I knew I needed to call the dentist to apprise them of my demise. They were so gracious to delay my extraction until 2 pm today. I breathed a prayer of thanks and then went on with my search.

I had already gone outside once to see if I left them in the lock but I decided I would go again. When I didn’t find them on the front porch I turned around and noticed they were laying on my formal dining room table. I was overjoyed but a bit flustered at the change in schedule.

Then my daughter came home from the gym and she started talking to me.

I had pulled the drapes back in my living room to show off the beautiful plants I had placed on my patio table. Most days I have the drapes down to block the hot sun but it was cloudy today so they were drawn to show off my beautiful backyard.

She asked me if I had noticed the hummingbird that had landed on those plants. I whipped my head around and no kidding, there was a HUMMINGBIRD! I had picked those plants specifically with the hopes of attracting a butterfly but I had never imagined that I would be blessed with a hummingbird!

Then she asked me if she had ever shown me the pictures from her recent trip to California that she had taken with her sweet loving boyfriend. I said, “No, you haven’t”. So we sat on the couch and she shared with me the highlights of an amazing trip she had been blessed with.

As I sit and reflect on the day which is not even half done I have realized that God is not impressed with the amount of work I do. What He seems to be impressed with is the amount of joy I partake in as He rearranges my days and my life to enjoy the hummingbirds and the beauty of my daughter. I have noticed when I pray and give Him my day He sprinkles it with moments of pure joy. It is no wonder that I love Him so much.

RIGHT OR EFFECTIVE?

I had the most interesting lunch today with a corporate attorney. The fact that I had accepted an invitation from an attorney for lunch, was in itself a miracle. A couple of years ago after I had been through hell in the family court arena I wouldn’t have communicated with an attorney at all. The family law legal professionals I hired weren’t worth a penny.

So I had my guard up to begin with, I soon let it down. This guy was brilliant yet humble and very engaging in conversation. We touched on some very deep subjects and he could match my intellectual level without breaking a sweat. The conversation skipped from one subject to another and neither of us really cared which way it was skipping because we just went with the flow.

This man had been mentored by a very wealthy man who took him under his wing and he soaked up every bit of wisdom this billionaire bestowed upon him. A quote he told me stuck out as being worth investigating. His mentor had told him, “He didn’t need to be right, he just needed to be effective.”

I thought about that for awhile. Most people who argue want to prove that they are right. They defend their viewpoint at the expense of the other person’s feelings because somewhere in the land of disagreements it becomes about who owns what, who said what or who did the wrong thing. In essence it boils down to who is right.

Yet when someone is right, there is no reason to argue.

Take in point when Jesus was in court. He did not defend himself. He had every right to defend himself. He was present during creation, He had done countless miracles, He had not sinned, He could have silenced everyone in the room with a glance yet he didn’t. Why? Because He knew who He was and He knew that He was the sacrificial lamb for the sheep which had gotten lost.

In doing so He conquered death. I think that Jesus was not only the most righteous of all humans but also the most effective. I don’t know too many people who have been dead for three days and rose again. How many do you know?

TIGERS

I have heard that tigers do not change their stripes in relation to people. Usually it is in the negative. When a person has cheated or deceived one person the thought is that they will cheat and deceive others.

I have wondered if this statement could be viewed in a positive manner also. I think it can.

When I first moved into my new house I became a constant at the swimming pool in summertime. I made it a habit to swim a mile every night in the Olympic size pool and I enjoyed it. Pretty soon I made a new friend. She lived in another neighborhood but enjoyed going to the pool every evening also. Pretty soon we did a mile together almost every single evening. I would swim and she would walk it in the pool. We also biked and went for long walks together.

Over exercise we became the best of friends. We shared our joys and our sorrows as well as our frustrations. She was married and I was single but we both loved our families deeply.

I had taken a break from working at that time in my life and I enjoyed my time with her. After taking a 6 month hiatus from work I had to go back and somehow our friendship faded.

I missed her terribly but I knew she would be okay because she always had a lot of friends. She was very outgoing.

I tried calling her several times but finally gave up. One night I called and her daughter answered. Her daughter said she had just had another baby. I was excited for her and tried to call her several times after that but I just couldn’t connect.

I talked with her or ran across her in the neighborhood on occasion and it seemed as if she had lost a bit of her outgoing personality. She had stopped talking to her next door neighbor and another friend that she had had. I started to worry that she may be going through a depression.

This afternoon I got a phone call from her. She was having some friends over from a Mom’s club and she invited me to the get together. I went and although none of her old friends were there (me being the exception) she had a house full of new ones. I was so glad to see that she had friends and the girls joked about her always talking about me but they had never seen me so they chided her and told her that they thought I was just an “Imaginary” friend. I was surprised that she still talked about me but also flattered.

She was just as fun as she had always been and just as popular. I hope to see her more often because I hope she is a tiger who didn’t change her stripes of friendship.